Sunday, September 5, 2010

The ONE type of woman you should not date


Indeed I have covered quite a few topics of interest, but none as profound as the one I am about to discus. Mainly because this may actually be one of those topics that impacts heavily on all areas of a relationship where the Mars clan is concerned.

It all stemmed from a conversation I was having with a bunch of high schoolers on the type of girl they should never date. When I first asked what they though about the topic, the typical egocentric answers started to emerge like, “she has to be able to cook…satisfy me in bed… she must have a fat ass and breasts…” some even stooped so low as to say “spitter are quitters!” I don’t remember ever being that shallow, honest.

After a while we did get to a point that started to resemble more of what I was looking for, and that was the core values that every man wants in his future wife. With a bit of patchwork and cross-generational research, I began to see a trend in the reasons many men loose interest in their partner after a period of time; what attributed to most arguments amongst heterosexual couples and what signs men look for as escape mechanisms when they go on a date. What I found was this.

At the end of a day, a man wants to feel… like a man! And a dude will stay shy of any female when he begins to see signs of what I describe as Emotional Castration. It starts as the woman who begins barking orders and dictating the pace of the date, to the woman who wants to tell you how to make love to her, to the woman who sees the need to continuously put you down and point out that you are ‘nothing like her father’. Nothing says, I need to get the ‘hell out of here’ faster than a woman who is going to make you aware of your every inadequacy and feel the need to prove that ‘without her, you would be NOTHING’.

This may be something hard for the modern day female to accept because you can’t even turn on the radio without hearing some woman empowering herself. It’s all “emancipate yourself” this, and “don’t need a man” that, that has women believing that to have any place in society, they must stamp their authority in her man’s life, in the home and in the relationship. What ever happened to the woman who actually gave her man a back rub and a drink when he was just terminated from work? Nowadays a woman is so keen on pointing out a man’s inadequacies that they do it even when he actually does something commendable. Where are the woman that made a man feel… like a man?

The long and short of it is this, the Emotional Castration woman is seen in certain types, like the over accomplished business woman, or the girl who had six brothers, and by extension a man will sound the alarm and take cover when he sees signs of this creature raring its ugly head. So unlike the younger generation who believe that superficial qualities are what will make or break a relationship, those of us who are serious look to those evolutionary traits that still say… The Man is the head of the household and the woman bears her rightful place, by his side.

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